In today’s world, where complimenting a woman's smile gets you labeled as a monster, I’m thrilled that I’m self-employed.
While I obviously believe that women can and should be able to do whatever they want with their lives, they sure are making the work place a confusing where men are left with a mountain of frustration and hand-wringing
The media’s favorite target, President Trump, recently sent predictable and dull shockwaves through the world when he off-handedly complimented a female Irish Reporter’s smile.
“She has a nice smile on her face so I bet she treats you well.”
The NY Times, always out to bend the truth to make Trump look incompetent and sexist, wrote the appropriately distorted headline: Trump Interrupts Call to Compliment Female Reporter’s ‘Nice Smile’. I say it’s distorted, because he didn’t technically interrupt the call, but rather like someone in an awkwardly formal situation tends to do, brought her into the call as a shared acquaintance to break the ice with Irish Prime Minister.
The way the NY Times spins it, you’d expect Trump, speaking like a 1930s gangster, dropped the phone and said “hey toots, nice smile! Can you bring me a drink?”
I’ve got to give the media their credit – they don’t miss an opportunity to hit Trump over the head with some type of contrived outrage.
Looking at the different takes on this in the media, the summation of this completely normal exchange is this: women get treated differently in the professional world.
And that’s absolutely true. And so what?
Men and women absolutely treat the opposite sex differently than they treat the same sex. Trump, or another man in a position of power, would be more likely to make fun of another man’s bald head then they would to make fun of some type of “defect” or insecurity a woman might have. Men like to break balls. It’s a tradition in male culture. It’s not for everyone, but as a man in a workplace you learn who is game for it and who isn’t. It’s part of navigating the social order and building bonds that last forever. Being willing to let your guard down is such an important of bonding. If we treat you like we treat other men, you find a reason to hate us for that, too.
Trump’s comment to the reporter was a harmless compliment. At worst, it was the slightest bit flirty. It wasn’t cross the line flirty like walking around the office with your penis hanging out of your zipper, it was an innocuous flirtatious jab to lighten the mood. That’s the WORST case scenario.
The last time I checked, mild flirtation is a very normal part of the work day and a normal part of life in general - even for happily married men and women who have never and will never cross any sexual lines. That’s why there’s things like “work husbands” or “ work wives” – people of the opposite sex who bond in the same way a real married couple might. You could expect to see these fake work couples finishing each other’s sentences, looking out for each other, reminding each other of important deadlines and anything else that feels comfortable and appropriate.
Flirting is the cross-gender way of breaking balls. It’s not for everyone, but it’s how people are used to communicating with one another and how people of different sexes lower their guard just a little bit to invite people into their world and begin to build a lasting bond with a human being.
All that aside, saying that she has a nice smile on her face isn’t even necessarily a comment on her looks. It could just as well be a comment about her pleasant disposition – more likely this is the true intention since Trump mentioned that the reporter must treat the Prime Minister well. The media's never been all that interested in giving Trump the benefit of the doubt when it comes to context so why would they start now?
The bigger point here is more important. Work is a social place. For some people, busy people with kids and all the activities that go with running a family, it’s some of the only socialization they have. It’s very important for the well-being of people’s lives that they have the ability to be themselves without fear of an awkward conversation from HR or getting fired for daring to say someone’s smile and demeanor is pleasant and must be nice to be around.
Western Chauvinist| COPYRIGHT © 2017 . ALL RIGHTS RESERVED
A conservative blog promoting western culture and values